I love the analogy of the safety pin because it came to me while I was trying to fall asleep for the second time to no avail. And it just popped up. And I’m like thanks brain, but I wish you had given me this inspiration during the day when I was begging you to do so. Anyway! I liken the safety pin to things in life that provide catharsis or intervention. The safety pin is a tool used to fasten pieces of fabric together and comprises of a clasp that holds the pin and fabric in place; it comes in pretty handy, especially during fashion faux pas.
In order to use the safety pin, you first need to identify why you need it. What is it that requires you to use this tool? Is it dress straps that you need to hold in place, or maybe an accidental rip during the day and you need something quick to secure the fabric and save you from embarrassment. Whatever it is, you have to identify the problem. Why do you need your figurative safety pin? Do you feel alone, or maybe you’re having a tough day at work, or deeper than that, you’ve suffered trauma and recognize that it is negatively impacting your life. Whatever it is, admittance is the first step. You have to acknowledge that there is a need for the safety pin before you can use it.
The next thing that happens is opening the safety pin by removing it from its clasp. Opening up is super important. One of the most important and the most beautiful experiences is being vulnerable. It may seem scary, but it is being open about what’s in your heart and mind that will help the process of healing, or solving the issue. Even if it is as seemingly insignificant as having a crappy day because the secretary was mean to you for no reason! Expressing it validates your feelings and can lead to discussions about overcoming.
Here’s the part we all hate. In order for a safety pin to do its job, its sharp end has to pierce the fabric once to go in and once to go out. Sometimes vulnerability hurts. Expressing how you feel about an issue or trauma brings up thoughts, feelings and memories of pain, shame and a myriad of other intense emotions. And to really ensure overcoming, you might have to do it more than once. Personally, it’s the part I hate the most but respect the most. I hate it because it hurts and I’m scared of the outcome of expressing these intense emotions. But I respect it because of how it supports the opening up process. The pin must do this in order to position itself properly for the fabric to be held in place. Pain is an indicator of the realness and validity of you and how you feel. I respect this stage because of what happens next.
Fastening back to the clasp: The safety pin returns to stability. Its clasp does what it is designed to do, hold the pin in place. But now it is utilizing its other function: holding the fabric in place. Now we’re back to where we’ve started, only things aren’t how they were before this whole process. The issue is tackled, and we have overcome! Yes, when you get home you may want to actually repair the dress with some needle and thread, or if it’s too damaged, replace it with something of better quality, but for now your outfit is a bit stronger because of a little tool called the safety pin.
Some of these posts may act as a safety pin for you — it may bring awareness to an issue, or expose your true feelings, or offer some level of comfort/healing, or all of the above. Safety pins are necessary. They are cool little tools. And they not only help fix minor issues or setbacks in our fabric, they remind us that there might be things we need to adjust, repair, replace, or discard completely.